Adam has a theory about past lives that I have been agreeing with for years — until I felt our son move at 27 weeks and realized he has absolutely no idea what he is talking about

Now that I have your attention…

I love Adam to bits, he truly is the best and is my ultimate and absolute match. We make a great team. But, he has it wrong…(for a first)

He has a theory.

• If you were bad it your last life, you come back a woman.
• If you were good in your last life, you come back a man.
• If you were excellent in your last life, you come back a golden retriever.

There are so many events and instances in our lives that I could say, yes you are right. For instance:

As a woman, you have to get all menstrual each month (god what I wouldn’t do to give up those awful kidney cramps). As a woman, you have to worry about hair, make up, fashion, friends, cadiness and all the other crapola that seems to effect us but men just brush it off. You go through awful teenage years.

As a man, your friends move on through issues. Men are more comfortable in their own skin. They have tougher skin and better muscle memory. They make better friends. You save money better. They can sleep around and not be called trashy.

As a golden retriever, you get to sleep all day, play fetch in the park, look beautiful and get loved on more than anything. Nothing is required from you except love.

I have always pretty much agreed with Adam and had him explain his theory to so many…but now as I sit here, 27 weeks pregnant and I feel our little man moving, rearranging, hiccuping, squirming, kicking and dreaming…. I know that he has it wrong. Being a woman and having the ability for such private moments with our unborn son is something that he will never (in this lifetime) have the ability to so intimately know. At this moment in time, I know that I was awesome in my last life 🙂

*I also know that at birth time…I may not be thinking the same thing*

A Note From The Eternally Wise Soul (Adam)
– To begin, Nicole is a woman, therefore her brain is significantly less developed….it’s science. Ok, not really…that’s just something I taught to my Korean students. Nicole’s got a pretty high power noggin but lacks the “old soul” experiences that I base my theories on and inherently know to be true. I do agree that as a man, I will never experience the same bonding that occurs between woman and child during pregnancy. There is something miraculous about the whole process that is truly awe inspiring and beautiful. At the risk of sounding like an unsympathetic spouse I can sum up my theory by maintaining  that there’s in no way, or where, on Gods Green Earth that I am upset that I’m not pushing our lil’ boy outta my hole and if there’s a flaw in that thinking….put me in the dog house where I can dream of the glorious king canine life I have yet to live.

Q: What is it like feeling your baby move at 27 weeks pregnant? A: By 27 weeks fetal movement is frequent strong and completely impossible to ignore — rearranging hiccuping squirming kicking and what can only be described as full gymnastics routines at 2am. The intimacy of those private moments between mother and unborn child is genuinely unlike anything else in human experience and impossible to fully describe to someone who has not felt it from the inside.

Q: What are the best parts of being pregnant that nobody talks about? A: The completely private relationship you develop with your baby before anyone else in the world meets them. Every hiccup every stretch every middle of the night kick belongs entirely to you in a way that is both exhausting and profoundly sacred. It is the one experience of parenthood that is entirely yours and nobody else can share it no matter how much they want to.

Q: How do couples navigate different pregnancy experiences? A: With humor grace and a healthy acknowledgment that the person not carrying the baby will simply never fully understand what it feels like from the inside — no matter how empathetic supportive and wonderful they are. Adam is all of those things. He is also not wrong that he would prefer to remain on the outside of the birthing process and we respect his position entirely.

Q: What is the hardest part of pregnancy nobody prepares you for? A: The monthly physical realities that arrive like clockwork regardless of what else you have going on. The wardrobe that stops making sense around week sixteen. The sleep that becomes a complicated engineering project involving seventeen pillows. And the very specific kidney cramp situation that arrives monthly for years before pregnancy even begins which Nicole would happily trade for almost anything else.

Q: How do you keep your sense of humor during pregnancy? A: Marry someone who makes you laugh. Write a blog together where you call each other out publicly and lovingly. Agree that everything is funnier in retrospect and that the stories you are creating right now will be told at your children’s weddings someday. That helps enormously.