Life Decisions and Updates

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We have now been in Japan a total of 7 weeks, it seems like so much longer. Only several weeks after our arrival, we knew something wasn’t right. The weather was bad, our attitudes were pretty negative and we couldn’t seem to find things positive about being here.
One day when we left the grocery store Adam said to me that he wasn’t happy, that he just didn’t feel like this was the right place for us. Since he opened the can of worms, I decided to let my opinions flow too. From that moment, we couldn’t stop comparing Japan and Korea…

The food,
The people
The housing
The hiking
The saving
The fruit
The food
The language
The smiles
The public transportation
The traveling
The food!
Basically when we began comparing the countries and where we wanted to be for a few years, Korea was always on top. (I won’t go into detail about our list because they are our opinions but if you have questions you can always write us.)
So, a few days later we were still talking about it and realized that we aren’t the type of people to just settle, to just commit to something even if we aren’t happy. We definitely go after what we want and what will make us happy.
After more debate, we decided to give our two weeks notice at work. We read through the Japanese labor laws and found out that you have to be paid within 7 days of your last date of work if you resign, which put us near the end of March. Our main goal was not to have to pay another months rent here at the guest house. So, we worked through all of the numbers and dates and gave our notice on February 19th.
We heard a lot of, but you just got here etc, but in our hearts we know this isn’t the place for us. We knew we wanted to try Japan, if we didn’t we would always wonder “what if.”
We began looking for work in Korea and after one job fell through (even though we compromised the heck out of what we wanted in the deal), we worked with some very frustrating recruiters, and then a company contacted me whom I contacted weeks before saying they had an opening. I had an interview on Friday and a job offer on Monday.
The offer is a really great deal where they help with our moving expenses and also allow us to pick out our own apartment. The company is a global company which I believe opens up so many opportunities for the future.
So, we have been out of work for 6 days now, we have a bit of cabin fever in our small apartment, but there is really nowhere to hike or walk to in Fujigaoka where we live. The weather hasn’t been too pleasant so we don’t want to spend money on the train and then not be able to walk around. But, we have a list of a few things we want to do before we leave…so as soon as the sun comes out, we will venture out to those parts of the city.
We are going to do some spring cleaning and hopefully bring a bag or two less to Korea than we did to Japan.
We are estimating our date of arrival in Busan to be April 3rd or 4th. We are so excited and can’t wait. We actually have a list of the first 20 things we will eat and do in Busan when we arrive 🙂
Thats all for now, we will add more details as we know them. Right now, we are in limbo…

How do you build a life around adventure and travel?

Intentionally and incrementally. Most families who live this way did not leap from conventional to adventurous overnight. They built remote work capacity, paid down debt, tested longer trips, and had increasingly honest conversations about what they actually want from their lives. The leap feels bigger from outside than from inside.

What does an adventurous family lifestyle actually look like?

Different for every family. For some it is long-term travel. For others it is weekend adventures close to home. What connects them is intentionality about how time is spent and a preference for experiences over accumulation. The version that fits your family is the right one.

How do you balance adventure with stability for kids?

By finding stability within the adventure rather than treating them as opposites. Routines, rituals, and family rhythms travel with you. Familiar foods, bedtime routines, and predictable family dynamics provide stability even when the location changes. Kids need consistency in relationships more than consistency in geography.

What has travel taught your family?

That people are fundamentally similar across cultures in what they want for their families. That comfort zone is a smaller circle than it feels from inside. That the things worth having in life require effort and discomfort to get. And that time together doing hard interesting things is the most reliable source of family closeness.

How do you handle the pressure to live conventionally when you have chosen differently?

By getting clear on why you made the choices you made and returning to that clarity when the outside noise gets loud. Most families living unconventionally describe an initial period of explaining themselves that gradually gives way to just living the life. The explaining becomes less necessary as the results become visible.


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  1. Nicole, Mom and I both feel, in our hearts, that you will be happier in S. Korea. Based on your blog, it's the best move you can make. I'm sure all your readers will agree. Hang in there for that last week, make the move and then breathe….and breathe deep. You guys are doing a great job of describing your ventures and, yes, I make ever attempt to read all of them. We love you….Dad

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