How far along: 21 weeks
Total weight gain: gained 11 lbs total
Maternity clothes: I still wear my jeans but most of my shirts are still regular shirts. I do think I am ready for some big ole cotton underroos (TMI, sorry) and flattering pajamas.
Stretch marks: nope, stay away. My water intake and intense love of watermelon hopefully will continue to fuel good skin.
Sleep: ugh, my arch nemesis. Every 4th night or so I get a good night’s rest. My hips are sore and I toss and turn a ton. Eunee now cuddles with Adam not me…I think I disturb her too much
Best moment of this week: On the 10th, I was lying watching TV and I truly felt you kick, or punch, or knee, or head butt. I immediately had your Dad sit with me and after some time, you started going…maybe it was the samba or macarena, but you were moving for a good 90 minutes. We both felt it. You are incredible!
Miss anything: feeling pretty. My hormones are destroying my hair and skin. I miss my arm muscles and yoga and my slim fit jeans. But, after meeting with our midwife this week, she really made it a point to explain how amazing everything that is happening inside and to me. How, you are just taking it all from me so you can become the most incredible and handsome little boy.
Movement: see above
Food cravings: not really. I still really don’t want any sugar and love watermelon.
Anything making you queasy or sick: being too full
Gender: Boy!
Belly button in or out: In
Wedding rings on or off: On, although when I sleep, I have been taking them off.
Happy or moody most of the time: no comment. I try to be happy. I really do. We just have so much I want to work its way out that it is all I can think about.
Registry: Babysrus… we are done for now, I think. We have been there a few times and really can’t even think that we will need anything more than what we have on our list.
Looking forward to: finding an apartment so we can start getting your room ready. I went to joann’s and bought some very cool fabric to start making things for your room…a blanket, art work and bumpers. They are all turquoise greens and oranges. They also all have to do with travel, we bought bikes, airplanes, boats, and are sooo cute! I will start cutting for a blanket this week.
Keep exploring
Travel with your family
That you will not do it perfectly and that is not the goal. That kids remember how they felt more than what they were given. That the hard seasons pass. And that showing up consistently matters more than any individual parenting decision you will ever agonize over.
Imperfectly and continuously. The balance shifts rather than stays fixed. Some seasons are work-heavy, some are kid-heavy, some are partnership-heavy. The goal is not equal distribution but intentionality about where attention goes and honesty about when the current distribution is not working.
Talk to your kids honestly and earlier than feels comfortable. They handle truth better than they handle sensing that something is happening but not knowing what. And ask for their input even on decisions that are ultimately yours because being heard matters even when the outcome is not what they wanted.
Better than most parents expect, especially when the adults around them are honest and stable. Kids take emotional cues from their parents. If the adults are anxious and secretive, kids become anxious. If the adults are clear and calm, kids adjust. The hardest changes are the ones parents are not settled about themselves.
That each child is entirely different and what worked for one will not reliably work for another. That the early years are harder and faster than anyone tells you. That the goal of parenting is to gradually work yourself out of a job. And that being present is more rare and more valuable than being perfect.
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Congratulations mama! You’re glowing 🙂
haha, thanks..I feel like I am growling 🙂
I heard shea butter works for stretch marks…ooohhh or extra virgin coconut oil would be even better!! xo