Before I begin, PLEASE know I am not complaining, I love every moment of being a SAHM, I am just trying to figure out the balance in my head.
Here’s what I love
- Spending time with Gavin
- Even though it is the “old school” gender thing…cooking and cleaning for when Adam comes home, I kind of love the responsibility and enjoy keeping “house.”
- Having coffee time a few days a week with my Mom
- Knowing that hubster is at work doing all the “providing” (yes, I have nicknamed Adam hubster)
- Having so much time in the day, but feeling like I still don’t get enough accomplished
My vegetables out on the patio are really growing. It is cool to be able to make a salad with my own Kale and Tomatoes.
When Adam gets home, I go to the gym for an hour.
But when all is said and done, I still don’t feel like I am doing enough. I feel like I have to justify even to myself every little thing that I am doing so in the end, my list is long and I feel worthy of staying home.
I have a daily chore chart that I made myself..it sounds ridiculous when I type that, but alas it is true. Monday I do the clothes laundry and organize the closets, Tuesday I clean the bathrooms and the floors, Wednesday I wash the sheets and towels and clean out the fridge/ kitchen cabinets, Thursday I make the grocery list and dust and Friday I do whatever is left. Every 4th day I clean the cloth diapers. Daily, I do the dishes, straighten up, take care of Gavin, water the plants and do my 30 minute in home workout when he is napping.
Here’s my problem, when I make that list, to me, it seems like not enough.
I take the car 2 days a week to run errands, meet my Mom for coffee, go to a Mommy group meeting or just go roam around Target.
I work with Gavin on the floor…reaching, rolling, laughing, grabbing (developmental stuff)
I’ve been sewing a little.
I’m trying to blog everyday…our readers kind of disappeared when we moved back to Florida.
We go to the swimming pool to dip our feet in.
And, once again, this list, doesn’t seem like enough.
I know as Gavin gets older, his needs will change and this will keep me busier…but until then…
Are you a SAHM? What does your day look like? How do you convince yourself that you are doing enough to provide?
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That people are fundamentally similar across cultures in what they want for their families. That comfort zone is a smaller circle than it feels from inside. That the things worth having in life require effort and discomfort to get. And that time together doing hard interesting things is the most reliable source of family closeness.
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Thanks Natalie!
Congratulations for being an SAHM! It’s a real tough job even though not many seems to think so!
My everyday seems to move on a spinning top that I’d be lucky if I can find 10 minutes to myself to read, shower, check my emails or even just sit and stare at the wall. It was hard for me the first few weeks when I became an SAHM almost four years ago but I get the hang of it and manage to do well.
Right now I’m helping so many new mothers and SAHMs alike to cope with the stress and demand of SAHM. I’m glad being an SAHM allows me to give something back to other mothers.
It is the toughest and perhaps least glamorous job in the world but I wouldn’t trade it for anything else!
Here are some of my articles on SAHM to give you a boost!
http://secondphase.wordpress.com/2012/09/27/the-amazing-race/
http://secondphase.wordpress.com/2012/09/05/sahm-sanity-and-humor-mandatory/
Love,
Jaja
Jaja, thanks for the encouragement! Ill check out your articles for reenforcements 🙂
Girl, I miss going to work and coming back home. I don’t miss the actual work but leaving the house with a purpose and coming back to it with anticipation … totally miss that!